Friday, July 16, 2010

The Marriage make in Heaven

Recently, after reading about my divorce and looking at the bible on what it says about marriage, you must be wondering what is the Truth about Marriage. Lord leads me to write this post about my marriage and Su's marriage. This is to show the Grace of Lord Jesus that flows through us. Glory Glory! Amen Amen!

I guess without talking in details, you already know how my marriage ended in divorce. Did Lord who said in the bible about Christian cannot divorce really mean what He said? This is what I understand from trusting the Lord in this coming to 4 years. Yes, Lord is an Almighty God and NOTHING is impossible for Him. Then why my marriage ending in divorce while Su's one still intact?

Basically, Lord knows what each of us needs in our lives. What he needs us to do is to believe in Him and walk His Righteous Path as lead by Him. The difference between both our spouses are:- my ex do not believe in God nor spirits and only believe in self. He is such a hard nut to crack that Lord said if to wait for him to come back to Christ, the wait is till he is in his old age.

Lord could change a person behaviour when they accept Jesus to be their Saviour and Lord could then by His Grace, change a person thought about himself/herself when s/he keeps believing in the Lord and let the Lord do His part. So, my ex, who only believe in self, there is no way Lord could overwrite his own choice of not wanting God. Lord gives man free choice if to accept Him.

Su has the same pretty egoistic man. The difference is, he believes in the Lord. From totally don't want to care about Su, Lord has changed him to weekly buy some food for her and bring her out sometime. However, since young, he was pampered by women: from grandma to mother to wife. He expects to be served, even with heavy shopping bags, he don't carry any. It's the job of wife and kids, he thought. He wants total obedience to him at home. At his command, the wife and kid must obey.

Lord led me through the divorce and let Su see that divorce is not exactly that frightening to calm her down. Lord then led Su not to obey her husband. Lord said, if Su wants a loving husband, she has to get out of this master and slave relationship first.

When Su agreed to obey the Lord not to serve her husband, hell broke loose. It all started this way, he used his hat to cover her face in the lift and she shouted at him. There were others in the same life and he felt great embarrassment. On reaching home, he threw the dinners onto the floor, messed everything up and left.

After a day of cold war, he bought something for Su to eat but want her to apologise. Lord told Su not to as she did no wrong. Husband wanted to push her back to slave position. When he saw no action from Su, he got angrier and threatened her with divorce. Lord told Su to continue not to serve him and no apologise.

He wanted Su to go see lawyer with him. He thought he could threatened Su with this. Lord told Su that even when the whole divorce goes through, He could bring them back together. So when he threatened again, choice between apologise or divorce. Both choices were hard, Su wanted neither. But in the end, she thought that trusting the Lord is better than going back to the slave position.

When husband saw her actively looking for lawyer, finally his tactic fall! Glory Glory! Lord revealed that he had been a baby for far too many years. It's time to grow up to become a man. Glory Glory! Through this talk, he agrees to help out the family and clear his own dishes.

Glory Glory! Su got a loving husband now. He even offered to carry the heavy bags when they went shopping. When he agrees to grow up as man and be independent, Lord's Grace enabled him. Finally, Su and him happy. They now in loving relationship. Lord's way is difficult but by trusting Lord, Su got the deliverance. Holy Holy! Glory Glory!

For me, for what I lost in these 10 years of loveless and cheated relationship, Lord promised to give me a man that will love me much. This is to compensate for all the locust has stolen. Glory Glory!

Lord did not let Su and her husband to go for divorce because He could see that his heart have Su. He let me went through divorce because He sees that his heart does not have me at all. Man can hide but the Almighty God knows. Our part is to trust in Him and He will leads us out of our misery. Glory Glory! Amen Amen!

Even though the bible is a book of Truth, you need the Holy Spirit to show you which step you should walk for a victorious life. It's through the leading of the Lord, the bible comes alive. It is not for us to use our wisdom to read the bible but to always call on the wisdom of the Lord. Glory Glory! Amen Amen!

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